Reflections~A Mother~Please Don't Go....

Hello to my Release Yourself Family, I got a little something for you. I hope that I don't step on know toes, but if this hurts, just say, "Ouch" and keep moving.

When the Lord allowed my eyes to fly open this morning, I laid in bed thanking him for another day. But in the midst of all that, I had time to reflect. Reflect on yesterday. Reflect on what it truly means about reflections, memories, the past, the present and the future. Reflect what it truly means to be thankful, what it means to be a mother, a sister, a friend, a daughter, a niece, a child of God, etc. And the one thing that sticks out in my mind is... how can a woman just walk away and leave her child(ren)?

That is a million dollar question. I know that there are circumstances that may warrant a woman to leave her child(ren) with a grandmother, father, aunt, etc., Such as, jobs,(moving, relocating to get established to go BACK and get your child(ren), military(when you have to leave to serve your country), Addiction(when you can't care for yourself, much less your child(ren). But to just down right leave them, because your butt is to sorry, too selfish, too childish, too lazy, too STUPID, yes I said it, STUPID, to be a mother and care for your child(ren). You women that do that, YOU give the term Mother, Wife, Sister, or AUNT a BAD NAME.

Yes, you, those of you that walk off because you are wanting to live the "foot loose and fancy free life" without having to answer to your child(ren) about being hungry, needing new shoes, needing a mothers touch, needing mom at the muffins for moms, needing to depend upon you for that mother daughter talk..all because you just wanna do you. Yeah, you women, that think that it's ok, to just call only on birthdays, Christmas, maybe Thanksgiving, or to only send a card on birthdays. What ever happen to the woman that GOD created? Did you forget? Did you forget at the end of the day, and the end of time, you must give account to the reason(s) why you left your child(ren)? Did you forget what the BIBLE says about Mothers, and Women?

Did you forget, that for 9 months you carried a life inside of you, that you could not put down? Did you forget about the bond that you established and created when you were carrying that child(ren)? Or, did you ever establish and create a bond? It is so typical for a man to walk off, (not saying there are not any good men out there, but it's typical for the man to walk off.) But to just walk off and leave without some type of explaination, other than, "you just don't want to be a mother, and wife anymore" YOU ARE SORRY, YOU ARE A SORRY EXCUSE FOR THE TERM MOTHER, WIFE, OR AUNT. Yes, I am very upset, as well as hurt right now, I am upset for all the young girls, or ladies, that your mothers walked out on you, left you motherless, I am upset for all the girls or young ladies that had to grow up without a mother in the home, due to the fact the mother just did not want to be there.

To all the girls and young ladies, I WANT TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND INABILITY TO STAND UP TO THE TERM, MOTHER, WIFE, OR AUNT. As I stated earlier, I had the opportunity to reflect on yesterday. I have 2 small nieces, that are the epitomi of the term SMART. I am proud to be called Auntie by those two. I witnessed yesterday, how she received every award that was given out, except 1. I witnessed her walking across that stage more than one time, more than two times, more than three times. And I thought to myself, I would not have missed this for the world! just being an Aunt made me proud, and I remembered how I felt at all my child's graduations, all the way up to his High School Graduation. WOW!!! I was so proud of him and his accomplishments, I was proud to be his mother.

One day you will want all these precious moments back, and you will not be able to get them, one day, you will want to be a part of their lives, and you will not be received. Don't be mad or sad when that happen, because remember, you walked out and left your child(ren). The Bible says, "God grants some women the unique honor and blessing of becoming mothers. When you have a child(ren), hold them, love them, care for them and empower them. Psalm 71:6.

I forgive you, I cannot harbor angry or ill feelings in my heart for you, I can only pray, and continue to be a LIKE-MOTHER to my nieces, but I do hope and pray that you find it in your heart to forgive yourself, for walking out on your child(ren). Ask God for guidance, and ask your child(ren) for forgiveness.

Until next time, much love......
...........Bless someone today and don't forget to PRAY!....
......smoochies.......
................rcansawgirl...........

A Change Is Gonna Come....

Good evening "Release Yourself"  Family. This was laid on my heart from a conversation I had with a dear friend. I wanted to express my feelings on it, because the person we were conversing about is very dear and near to me.I feel so compelled to help, but I know that this is a job for God. But I can at least Release Myself about it.

As I sit and think about the way that people act, the things people do, I often wonder, do they have a conscious. People often talk about the way other people wear their hair, their clothes, shoes, etc. Then I wonder, are you so unhappy in your own skin until you have to talk about and demean, degrade, belittle and disregard the other person’s feelings? Are you so unhappy with yourself, until you have to make yourself feel superior, inferior, or more than the person with whom you are trying to attack verbally, emotionally, and forcefully. Are you so unhappy with yourself until you have to over-talk, under-mind, intimidate, and slash their way of thinking?

Why are you that unhappy? Are so unhappy until you have to ingest alcohol, and drugs into your body, give your body to men freely, which is Gods temple. Are you that unhappy? Could it be because you know that could be more than what and how you really are? You see, A CHANGE IS GONNA COME. Are you so unhappy because you have been branded as "Damaged Goods"? Are you so unhappy because someone or something has belittled, demeaned, disregarded, degraded, verbally, emotionally forcefully, over-talked you, intimidated, and under-minded you? Is this the affliction you are trying to inflict on someone else? You see A CHANGE IS GONNA COME. Are you trying to hurt everyone, because you were hurt? A CHANGE IS GONNA COME.

Well guess what. All these things and more can be removed from your spirit, just as they were delivered to your spirit. But it's going to take you understanding that if these things were done to you in the past that is exactly where they must stay, IN THE PAST! Today is a new day. Ask God, NO, DECLARE TO GOD AND THE ATMOSPHERE that these demon spirits be gone from your temple, which is your body, DECLARE A NEW THING IN JESUS CHRIST, and watch the manifestations of the Lord. But, once again, A CHANGE IS GONNA COME..there are some things that you must do...... (1) You must go to God in sincere PRAYER (2) You must ask for forgiveness for all of the afflictions that you have afflicted upon someone else, and be sincere about it (3) Cleanse your body from alcohol, and illicit drugs (4) Remove yourself from the places and things for which had you in bondage (5) Stay in CONSTANT PRAYER with prayer warriors. In order to stop the pain, we must first stop the hurt. Stop hurting and start healing, God is waiting for you to call upon him for his help. You have tried everything else; now try the only true remedy. A CHANGE IS GONNA COME..He's waiting. Did you know that Satan throws us baits, it's up to us weather or not we want to nibble, and being offended by the people who has offended us, is a BAIT OF SATAN. GET RID OF HIM....

Let us pray........

Now Lord I come humbly asking that if there is someone reading this note, and they are having these issues, or these spirits of offense and unhappiness has constipated their lives, I pray and DECLARE that all evilness, betrayal, selfishness, and unforgiveness be removed from your child. Give this person a since of peace, give this person love and forgiveness, pick this person up where they are torn down, hold them with your mighty right hand of righteousness. Father, I am asking that as a child of God, your child, that you open them up, and pour more of you inside of them, so that they may be able to give you all the glory and all the praise. Father give them peace, peace beyond thought, and father I declare that there will be no more lack, lack of finances, lack of jobs, lack of love, lack of peace, lack of your loving grace and mercy, I DECLARE IT RIGHT NOW IN THE NAME OF JESUS, HALLELUJAH, AND THANK YOU JESUS. And father as I come to a close from this prayer and note, but never from your holy spirit, please have mercy upon our souls. AMEN and Thank You Jesus!

May your soul rest in peace!

A CHANGE IS GONNA COME..... Rewind....A CHANGE HAS COME....NOW SHOUT ABOUT IT!!

Much Love.....Bless someone today and don't forget to PRAY!

..............Smoochies........

......................rcansawgirl.................

A Song In My Spirit!

Good evening "Release Yourself" Fam...As we all know, God awakens us every morning to see a brand new day that we have never seen before. But this morning when I was awakened (by God of course), I was singing a song out loud....besides God, I guess the song that was being sung out loud woke me from a deep sleep. That song was "Great Is your Mercy", Donnie McClurkin.

I know that God has placed that song down inside of me, because I prayed and asked God to give me a song to help me through, and I know that this is the song he gave me. How do I know? Because I know his touch, I can hear him when he speaks to me, I know his voice, and when I am feeling despair, lonely, or even frustrated, that song comes to mind, and I seem to forget about the loneliness, the feelings of despair, and the frustration.

Ask God to put a song in your heart, and sing it to the top of your voice, even if it wakes you up from a deep sleep....he has awakened your SPIRIT!

Family, be blessed, and bless someone today, and never, never, never forget to PRAY!!!

Great is your mercy towards me, your loving kindness towards me, your tender mercies I see, day after day, forever faithful towards me, you're always providing for me, great is your mercy towards me, great is your great!

Thank You Lord!

........Smoochies................
        .......................rcansawgirl.........

Envy~Why Are You Envious?

Hello "Release Yourself" family. I have just a few things to clear up. It's sad but it's true, there are people that eny you, despise you, or as to go as far as to say, hate you...I am dealing with some envy, yes I said it envy. There is this person that I thought was I was close to, but the more I am around her and I listen to her dialect, I find out that she is envious of someone, and it's sad to say, that person is ME.

Now, I can't begain to tell you why this person is so envious of me, because she hasd so much more than I do, she has a big house, she makes more on her job than I do, she has a title on her job, that I have strived to achieve. But this lady, she always seems to look at me funny when other people and I are talking about our good fortune, and the things that God has blessed us with. She always hassomething to complain about, and it's always negative energy, wheather it's a good day, or a bad day, SHE COMPLAINS REGARDLESS. He presence in a room has become foul....I have prayed and asked God to open her up, and pour more of him inside of her so that she too can be more Christ-like and stop the negativity and envy.

I am not going to actually get into all the things that she says or does, but it's envy for sure. I will say this. When I go to work, my clothes are clean and pressed, my hair is done to the "T", I know my job inside and out, and I am confident in my job, just to say a few. But no matter what I do, how I dress, or what I seem to accomplish whether iot be on the job or in my personal life, she finds something negative to say. ENVY?

Envy, well lets just say, God says "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, and is not puffed jup; does not benhave rudely; does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil."

If you are envious of a person, remember you are commiting a sin, and God says you to can have all that your heart desires, only for the asking.

I tell you, do not be envious of anyone, for what ever state you are in, rejoice and be glad. You can fool some people some of the time, but not all the people all the time, and GOD none of the time.

It is because of you haters, you enviuos peeps, and those who said that I couldn't and wouldn't, you are the reason why I did. Stop the ENVY! get some love hin your heart, and you too can have it all!

Thank you family for stopping by,
        Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!
                      ................Smoochies................
                                    .........rcansawgirl...........

I Have A Memory....This Man..

Hello "Release Yourself" family. Time for another one, this one is a dedication to my man........Here we go, and I hope you  enjoy
Last night I was with my black man and I have a memory.
I have a memory of his brown skin
I have a memory of himself in my self...

Yes, I have a memory.


I have a memory of his strong body his lean body, yes of his feeling
of my hands on him, his broad shoulders, his clean back...

I have a memory.


But I have a memory of his self, soul, spirit, flesh and all coming and going like some kind of god.
I have a memory a very rich memory of this man's love.


And I will always have a memory of his sweet charm, his warm kisses, his wet body next to mine.
I'll have a memory of this man's manness all my life.


My memory...My man...Rod...

Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!!
.............Smoochies.............
                          ......rcansawgirl.....

The Mirror Has Eyes

Hello "Release Yourself" family. This post is a little different, it's not mine, but I can identify with it. A friend of mine sent this to me, because she told me that she had been going on the blog reading my post, and she felt compelled and inspired to share this with me. Although she sent this to me in an email, I graciously called her back, and asked for her permission to post it on my blog, and she agreed, but she said, she didn't even have a title for it. I read it again, and thought for a title......"The Mirror Has Eyes" As I stated earlier, I can truly identify with her, because of all the pain, hurt, and betrayal I have experienced in my life. So, OK family, here it is:

Sitting here I have a desire to share one of my many experiences that have taught me to love. I ponder on what to title it. Hmm! I could say "Learning to love myself" or " Just loving me". I can't decide. Anyway. A few years ago a friend asked me to look in the mirror and ask myself do I like what I see. I considered this a strange suggestion. I look at myself everyday. Washing my face, brushing my teeth, those daily things. One morning standing in front of the mirror I look - same eyes, nose, mouth. But as I looked closer I was not prepared for what I saw. There in the mirror, eyes staring back at me was a haunted look. As I moved up even closer, I could see a hurting person. The eyes were filled with shame, regrets, guilt, resentments, disappointments, just to name a few. Eyes which revealed feelings of loneliness, despair and yes sometimes hopelessness. I realized at that moment that not only didn't I like what I saw, I didn't love me. The first thing that came to mind is "how can I not like myself?". I have sympathy and compassion, and I'm a caring person.

I love and like other people and they seem to like me. But the eyes said what about me? You don't love me! Deep down you don't think I'm worthy of love. How can you love others but you can't love me? My soul cried out "WHAT ABOUT ME"? I fell to my knees and began to pray, "Father help me, help me see what You see. I want to love me. I had to get really honest with GOD - confusing all, the starting point of letting go. Letting go of the past hurts and feelings of being a failure and the present fears and fears of failing. I pulled out HIS love letters to me/my bible and began to read what HE says about me. Because of LOVE HE died for me! Because of LOVE HE rose for me! Because of LOVE HE provides, protects, comforts and guides me. JESUS loves me inspite of all my faults and fears. Because of LOVE HE is my "I AM".   All that I would ever need.

How can I not love me? How can I even think that I'm not worthy of love? It has been a long road of digging out and letting go but now, I DO LOVE ME. I wake up every morning and step to my mirror and say "JESUS LOVES YOU AND SO DO I". Even those days when I'm tired, not feeling well or just blah I know that I am loved.
by...PWhitty...

Now "Release Yourself"" family.....After reading that, all could not say is, "WOW".. I want to thank my friend for allowing me to post such personal, but yet such a heart filling message. Thanks PWhitty, I love you girl, and I think that you are a beautiful person in and out!


In the mighty words of rcansawgirl, "Much love to you, bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!"
..........Smoochies.......
           ........rcansawgirl.....

STOP IT!

Hello "Release Yourself" Family, this is a very touchy topic to me, because of the abuse that some of us have gone through. I hope you enjoy....

Two people that are suppose to love and care for each other don't threaten, degrade, demean, disgrace, cuss, compare them to, continue to make each other feel belittled or stupid. They are suppose to inspire, encourage, uplift, stand by, love, laugh, be joyous with, and most of all share their lives in PEACE with each other. If one of you died tonight, how would you feel if the last words you spoke to the other person was negative, mean or just down right UGLY!  U Better stop before God stops you in your tracks. Life is so short for we as people to always be degrading.

Men, stop hitting your women. Women stop badgering & hitting your men. It is no excuse for a man to hit a woman, and women, just because you are women, don't think that a man will not hit you, because he will. Even if a man was raised to NOT hit a woman, believe me, he will hit you.

Women, stop compairing your present man to your last man, if your last man was not good for you in many ways, don't carry that baggage into the relationship that you have now and stop the name calling, you are running that man else where----mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

Men...if the last woman you had was not good for you in many ways, don't carry your overnight bag with you into a new relationship, you will be looking at the same results.

It is so important to love and nurture each other....But it is most important to treat GOD's children as gold.  If you are demeaning, disgracing, and doing all the negatives, to each other, then remember one thing......you are doing those things to GOD, because GOD made us ALL!!!

*I pray for everyone that has gone through or that is going through a bad or abusive relationship that you will find the courage to remove yourselves and seek the grace of God. I pray that no one finds themselves killing, or being killed because the abuse was so intense, they felt there was noway out or that anger evolved you so much that you killed. I pray that you will realized that you are somebody, and that "No weapon formed against you shall prosper, " and God loves you. Please be encouraged, and seek God's love that he has for you......Amen!

Much love....Smoochies...

Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!!!

.....rcansawgirl....

My Child

Hello "Release Yourself" family. This post is dedicated to my son, Jonathan Rayford, my one and only. As days, months, years, hours, and minutes go by, I reflect on how I have looked at people, things, situations, joy and pain. But most of all, I look at how I have raised or parented my child. And the words which always comes out my mouth when I am speaking about my child is, " I thank God for giving me grace, I thank God for helping me raise a child who is not on drugs, robbing or stealing for a living, selling drugs for a living, he's not an alcoholic, and he's not a drug addict, he has a legal job where he punches a time clock everyday, he does not have a bunch of kids running around by a bunch of different baby mama's, and he still respects me as "Mama". So yes, I thank the MAN ABOVE~MY GOD!


I have tried to do the right thing by him, I have been a single parent for 20 years, even though I was married, I was still a single parent, because that was not Jonathan biological father. Don't get me wrong, he was a good dad to Jonathan, but I was still Mama and Daddy, because at the end of the day, he was looking at me for protection, food, clothing, love and affection. There were many times when I cried to God seeking for direction and understanding, and because of my faith in him, I feel I succeeded in doing what I sat out to do. I raised a good, respectable, God fearing, lovable, and honest young man. Thank you Lord, it was the Lord, and only him...


Jonathan told me the other day, an older gentleman on his job questioned him as to why he works 2 jobs. He went to ask Jon do you have kids, are you married, do you have a big automobile pymt, do you have a mortgage? As the gentleman was inquiring about all these things, he and Jon was smiling. Well of course, Jonathan's answer was NO to all the questions. Jon just smiled and told me he told the man, "My mama said, you have to work for what you want, cause aint nothing free but salvation, and in order for you to accomplish and gain what you want, you must work hard, even if it means working two jobs". That made me feel good to hear what I had preached for so many years.

I stopped by Jonathan's job, and I just happened to meet that older gentleman that Jonathan spoke of, and it brought tears to my eyes, when he (the older gentleman) told me, "You sure did raise a good man, he is one of my favorites here, and you have done a spectacular job, we need more young black men like him", All I could say is, TO GOD BE THE GLORY, and thank you sir, I love him, he's my baby...


You know parents(people), there are no excuses in giving your child(dren) back to God, he can fix, mend, and free anything or anyone. Single moms and dads, keep a hedge of protection over your child(ren), ask God for answers and guidance, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and there are NO EXCUSES and FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!! ©

What's Inside Your Book?

Hello "Release Yourself"  family. Today has to do with what I am constantly looking at in our younger female gender. Sometimes we are books that people read. The cover may or may not be deceiving to readers. Don't allow your cover to determine if people will or will not read you. Be the book that someone will pick up, buy, read over and over, and would share with other friends.


Don't be the book, where the cover is not appealing and it gives the wrong impression, that's the book that needs to be bought and read, it's just the cover is tacky and unappealing.

Which book are you? ©

In order to caught the big fish, you have to throw out a good hook, but in order to be caught and made someones prize, we must prize material.

Much love to all my "Release Yourself" Family....
Bless someone today and don't forget to PRAY!!!!!
....Smoochies....
          ....rcansawgirl....