Talking to MYSELF

Hello Release Yourself Family, and as always, it's great to be here, and thanks for stopping by. I know that it has been a while since we have last engaged in conversation, actually, it has been since July. I have been a little busy, school, work and then I had knee surgery in October, so I have had alot going on, but I have never forgotten about all of you. I relaized today I was talking to myself when a caller called me just to vent.....This is how the conversation went down.

 

Today was not necessarily a day that I felt like listening to someone else’s problem. Yes, I was being selfish, but it turned out that GOD had something else he wanted me to do. Just when you think that your life is far from what you would like for it to be, here comes someone else with a problem that is greater than yours.

I was in one of those moods today, you know, “feeling a certain kinda’ way” and my cell rang, well, I looked at the number and name for a few seconds, wondering should I answer or not. Well I did. This 55 year old person was on the other end, actually wishing me a Happy Belated Thanksgiving, and also asking for a few slices of pie, which this person knows that I will cook for an army on Holidays. I broke the news to him, that I did not have any cakes or pies, and I did not cook anything this year. He could not believe it. Well, nonetheless, he just jumped right into why he called. He was a little depressed, mad, and sad all at the same time.

Mind you, I really did not want to hear it, because, I was in my feelings as well. But as he began to tell me what was wrong, I took a seat and listened to his situation. He was telling me that he and his daughter have been having issues, she is being defiant, disobedient, lazy, and often talks back. He was explaining to me that he did not go to church this morning, I guess from feeling exhausted from arguing with her. Well, he went on to tell me some of the conversations they have been having, and her actions and reactions. I listened and never opened my mouth, I would say “hum uh”, from time to time, just to let him know that I was still on the line.

Soon, he asked, “what should he do?” I then said, “Pray”, that was the only thing I could say at the time. I told him to pray for her, and pray against the spirit that is holding her, or attempting to hold her in bondage. Anoint her day and night, anoint her shoes, clothes, doorknob, keys, school items, toothbrush, everything. Pray over her as he takes her to and from school, as he walks in and out the house, even as she walks pass him, pray and anoint her. Now I felt a little strange telling him that, because he is a man that believes in GOD, and the HOLY SPIRIT. But, I guess, he was feeling withered, broken, and tired. I told him to not give up, or give out. He told me it has been so hard raising a girl by himself, and she has become so bitter, because of her mother’s actions.

I told him, to sit her down, praise her in her face, tell her he loves her in spite of all that is going on, tell her that GOD has a plan, and that she is not alone. Tell her to continue to pray and seek his word. Tell her that he will never leave her, and that GOD is a mother, father, sister, or brother, he is everything. Now in the midst of telling him all this, I realized, I was telling myself these same things. You see, GOD had a plan all along. He put this man on my phone to tell me his problems, so that I could minister to MYSELF.

After all the conversation between the man and myself, he said, Thank you Annette, thank you so much for listening to me, and offering words of encouragement, I really appreciate what you have done for me today, now I feel like I can go and fight this spirit. I said, you are welcome, you are always welcome. When we hung up the phone, I realized………GOD HAD A PLAN, and he can use anybody to carry out his work.

 

LORD, I thank you today for your lesson learned, I thank you for sending your angels to keep me safe, I thank you for wisdom, knowledge, and your courageous spirit. LORD, if I have ever doubted you, please forgive me. LORD I thank you for humility, and grace. Thank you for listening to me, and never leaving me through all my fears and doubts, thank you for your passion, peace, love, grace, and knowledge. Thank you for my family and all those who care about me. Thank you, that you are always a listening GOD, and not the one to turn your face or ear from me. Thank you that you rose from the dead to set me free, thank you for opening me up, and pouring more of you inside of me, and thank you for blessing me to be a blessing to someone else.  And Father most of all…….Thank you for just being you all by yourself. AMEN!

 

Once again, thanks for stopping by, and always remember......."Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!!!!"

Much love..smoochies.....

..............rcansawgirl...........

That Little Talk.......

Hello Release Yourself Family, and as always, thanks for stopping by. It has been a while since I last posted, with school and all, I have really been on the grind, but I am never too busy for all of you, my family, friends, and followers. I wanted to post this, because I feel this is a something we as parents need to address at some point in time. We must be careful how we address it, but it must be addressed. This subject can and will save a lot of our young girls and boys from heart aches and pains, and death, yes death. My post is as follows:

Parents, ladies, young ladies, girls, young girls, adolescents, and all. Today I had a conversation with a young girl in reference to sex. She came up to me, and asked, Ms. Annette can we talk, and I said sure what’s up. She said, what is sex? I said why and who wants to know? She said, I wanna know, and I asked her where is your mama? And she said at home. I said let’s get her on the phone. So I called her while my little friend was standing there and me and her mom began to talk. I asked her if I could have such conversation with her, and she gave me permission to speak to her about this.

So as I got off the phone with her mom, I took her to an area so we could talk. I asked her why was she inquiring about sex? And she told me that a boy that she likes and he likes her, asked her to have sex with him. Now mind you, this young girl is only 13 years old, and very gullible but nice and smart. I said, sex is nothing to play with, it is not like your iPad that you can put down and pick up when you want to, sex is more complex than that. She asked how. I told her well for one, sex does not have a face or a name. A guy can tell you that he has no STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) and he may very well have one, that he does not know about. And for the guys the same thing. Sex is dangerous because you run the risk of pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and a bad reputation, and maybe even death.

I told her that sex can kill you, and it can….you have HIV/Aids-no cure and it kills you; Syphilis-no cure, but treatable; Trichomonas-curable, treatable; Herpes –No cure, treatable; Genital Warts-curable and treatable; Gonorrhea-curable and treatable. I explained to her that all these STD’s can cause pain, and later problems in your reproductive system, your eyes, your brain, bladder, heart, various infections and even cancer. This is why I say sex is dangerous. Sex should be handled and shared by two people who are married and in love, not just because he says he wants you, or if you like him you really would show him how much you like him. That’s a guilt trip he will throw on you to make you have sex with him. Don’t fall for any of those tricks.

So then I asked her how far have they already gone, and she told me, he has raised her shirt and touched her chest, and tried to go in her pant to feel on her. Well, of course, I told her, that is a form of sex, touch, caressing, foundling, that is a form of sexual activity. Don’t think he’s not going to tell his buddies, even if he tells you that he is not, he will, then you will become the “EASY GIRL” around school and town. You will be the prime candidate for humiliation by all the boys, because he told. And that is not the reputation you need or want.

She went on to tell me, that she really like him, and I told her, she need not do it, because she will never be the same. Hold on to your virginity as long as you can, and never give it to just anybody. It is OK to be a virgin, it is OK not to engage in sexual activity, it is OK to be weird, or be square. Concentrate on your books, get good grades, go to college and make something of yourself. Sex is not a prerequisite for life; GOD is a prerequisite for life.

So then she told me, that no matter how her feelings are hurt right now, she will not be having sex, cause she did not want to become pregnant or get a STD. I told her, not only that, but she did not want to labeled as a skank, whore, easy, tramp, or anything out of character. She then gave me a great big hug, and said, Ms. Annette, I knew you would tell me the truth, I love you!

WOW, that really made my day.

Family, if we would just sit our youngsters down talk to them, give them a reality checks, put some evidence in their face, tell them the truth, and not sugar coat these thing, Teen-age pregnancy, STD’s, and the epidemic of HIV/Aids related deaths and exposure would be far less than it is today.

Consider talking to your teens, and being honest. It will make a world of difference. I felt like I saved her life!!!

Release Yourself Family, as always take the time to Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!!!

Smooches

rcansawgirl.....muah!!!!

Cover It Up!

Hello Release Yourself Family, and as always, thanks for stopping by. As you all may know, I have always petition the young ladies to carry themselves in a respectable fashion. It is my wishes and desire that all young ladies know who they are inside as well as outside. There is no need for you(us) to gain negative attention to ourselves or our bodies. We are children of the MOST HIGH, so with that, this is my appeal to you--

Young girls, Ladies, Teens, Tweens, Daughters, Aunts, Mothers, Brothers, and Fathers. There is an epidemic going around, and somehow we need to figure out how to stop it, if not stop it, at-least put a cap on it. In a conversation earlier today that I was almost involved in, I heard a grandmother telling her grand-daughter she could not and was not going to leave out the house with what she had on. I was not able to see what the child wanted to wear, but I'm sure if there was such a debate about it, it was not pleasing to the grandmother.

My problem today is the eye sore of so many young ladies. The provocative dress, skin tight jeans, low and nearly no cut tops, or blouses, booty-shorts and mini-mini skirts. Our young ladies are being fooled by society, the celebrity society that is, that is ok to dress in-appropriate. I hear the young girls speaking of Nicki Minaj, Beyonce', Rhianna, and many more. But to our dismay, things aren't always what they appear to be. 

Young ladies, I appeal to you, to dress appropriately, you don't have to show your posterior(butt) every-time you leave home, or have your clothes skin tight, or show your breast for attention, because this is what is happening, attention. But the attention that you are receiving is the attention you should be seeking. Ok, so you say guys look at you, men whistle at you, ok......but that is negative attention. The attention you should be receiving is the attention of a gentleman, because a gentleman will not whistle at you, or call you "hey mama", a gentleman will walk up to you, and introduce himself to you, without looking at your posterior(butt), or down your blouse at your breast. He will be looking at what's on the inside of your brain. He wants to get to know you mentally, intellectually, and not physically or sexually.

Don't be fooled by the celebrity stars who wear tight articles, that's what they do, they are promoters, promoting sexually graphic lyrics, clothing, and videos. Ladies, Fathers, Brothers, Mothers, Aunts, etc. I appeal to you all, sit your daughters, nieces, cousins, and friends down, explain to them what a real man is looking for in a woman, and it's not what every other man can see on the outside.

It's ok to feel, look, and be sexy, covered up. I am 44 years old, I feel and look sexy, without showing my private areas in public. It's not cute, nor sexy to expose yourself in a negative manner. PLEASE, I cannot say it enough.....Take the time to dress appropriately before leaving the privacy of your home.Showing your thong, or your butt cheeks, is not sexy, it's down right degrading to whole woman race.

I always think about this.....If GOD was looking at me, what would I leave home looking like?
If my Aunt Vern was alive, what would she tell me? I can answer that, in her words not mine, "My ass aint no looking glass, for the world to see."  I spoke of this one time before, but I guess we as parents, aunts, children of GOD can never say it enough. Ladies, clean it up, cover it up, we have daughters, nieces, and cousins looking at us daily.

Ask yourself one question.....How you you feel if your daughter, grand-daughter, niece, or cousin was sexually assaulted because of what she was wearing, and the assaulter stated, "well, the way she was dressed, I thought she was trying to give it to me."

COVER IT UP LADIES!!!!

Once again, as always, I appreciate your support, and thanks for visiting, "Release Yourself" 

remember to Bless someone today, and don't forget to PRAY!!!!!  Much love-------

rcansawgirl